Conquering the Self

Conquering the Self

“It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.”

Sir Edmund Hillary

The quote by Sir Edmund Hillary is a powerful reminder that the most significant obstacle we will ever face is within ourselves. It is not the mountain we must conquer but our self-doubts, fears, and negative thoughts. We can push past these internal boundaries for physical and psychological growth. We can rise above any challenge and discover talents we never knew we had. We can focus on our potential instead of feeling overwhelmed by our limitations. Life is full of mountains that seem impossible in their way, but the mountains can be conquered with courage and perseverance.

Sir Edmund Hillary, the legendary explorer, spent much of his life doing hard things. Imagine climbing Everest, the challenges, the setbacks, the perseverance.

Pretty intense.

Now imagine climbing Everest only to compare that mountain to the internal forces we must overcome.

Further, imagine being a person who climbed Everest and still thinking the internal struggles are more significant.

What does it mean to “conquer” something or someone

Conquering something or someone means taking control and victory over an obstacle or opponent. When success is achieved, it is a sign of strength, courage, and determination. Whether conquering a physical challenge or overcoming a mental barrier, it takes effort and perseverance to achieve a desirable outcome. You must be willing to put in the hard work it takes to get what you want, yet remain balanced and grounded so that you do not become overwhelmed by success or failure.

Perseverance drives us towards inevitable triumph, with each small victory leading to more considerable breakthroughs. To conquer is to take action with confidence while keeping our minds open despite failure – no one can genuinely be conquered until they give up their dreams, creating their limitations.

Conquering is about embracing calculated risk and moving confidently toward the future, regardless of obstacles. Having our minds open to failure and learning from it allows us to try again with greater wisdom, strengthening us even further. No one can genuinely be conquered until they give up on themselves; it is only when we limit ourselves and impose boundaries on our dreams that we can no longer reach them. But conquering is genuinely within reach if we hold fast and never give up. It demands persistence, bravery, and faith in oneself – but those willing to endure will discover that the reward of victory outweighs all odds.

Take the class. Go back to school. Apply for the new job. Quit your old one.

These are all challenges we face. These are our obstacles. Our mountains.

Sometimes they are just as scary; sometimes, it is only in our minds. Either way, the mountains must be conquered.

Now, grow.

Many of us feel overwhelmed, helpless, or frustrated when faced with obstacles. However, every obstacle we face can become an opportunity for growth if we embrace it and see it as a challenge instead. To do this, we must be present, look at the problem objectively, and assess what skills or resources we can draw on to get through it.

Self-confidence will carry you forward into future challenges that life brings your way.

Being sure of yourself, your capabilities and your abilities is essential to thriving and growing. A self-confident attitude will arm you with the courage, strength, and determination necessary to tackle any challenge that life presents in your path. It will help you to trust yourself more, take risks and make decisions without hesitation. Strong self-confidence also opens up many doors of opportunity that prepare you to face what’s ahead – whatever the future may bring – with power, ambition, and perseverance.

Be Proactive

No matter what challenges we face, we must take a proactive approach to deal with them. We must be determined and take the necessary steps to overcome our problems.

Taking a proactive approach to dealing with life’s challenges is essential for anyone looking to reach their goals. It requires determination and a willingness to take the necessary steps to tackle problems head-on. We are proactive means never settling for mediocrity and taking control of our lives by responsibly strategizing and executing solutions, no matter what circumstances may present themselves. Only by preparing ourselves in advance and moving quickly can we rise above our challenges and come out victorious on the other side.

Conquer the self.

We all strive to conquer ourselves in some way, whether aiming for good mental health, staying motivated to reach a goal, or pushing personal boundaries. But what does it take to conquer ourselves truly?

An unwavering commitment to self-growth, acceptance of failure as part of the process, and abundant patience.

After that, it takes courage to push beyond previous boundaries, trust in one’s strength and capabilities, and a belief in their worthiness. With persistence and dedication comes power. Power to prevail.

Reckless Speaking

Reckless Speaking

It’s a dangerous thing to mistake speaking without thought for speaking the truth.

Benoit Blan – Glass Onion

As I watched “Glass Onion,” the Netflix version of Agatha Christie’s Hercules Poirot, the protagonist Benoit Blanc, played by Daniel Craig, made one of the movie’s best lines. He said, “It is a dangerous thing to mistake speaking without thought for speaking the truth.”

We’ve all been there – say something at the moment that we later regret. But doing it without thinking can have more severe consequences than embarrassing ourselves. People often make careless comments without realizing the weight of their words. And in today’s society, with its 24-hour news cycles and social media platforms, those irresponsible remarks can quickly spiral out of control.

Leaders Pause

It is a leadership quality to think before you speak, as the dangers of speaking without thinking can be severe. It is crucial to be conscious of what we are saying and how our words may impact others. While there is sometimes no way to take back the comments we have already shared, self-awareness can help us recognize when it’s wiser to pause and reflect on what we are about to say rather than let impulsivity take control.

Leaders pause, think, reflect, and finally react. Or, in this case, speak.

How to avoid speaking without thinking

Speaking without thinking can be a difficult habit to break. Still, it is essential for anyone who wants to understand their surroundings, reflect on what they have heard, and react appropriately as a leader.

Understanding the current situation and putting yourself in other people’s shoes is essential to avoid this problem. Stephen Covey would say we are seeking first to understand. Not respond. It is also helpful to take time out whenever you feel overwhelmed with information or ideas racing through your mind – take a deep breath, inhale some fresh air outside if you can, and allow yourself to be in the moment for a few minutes before continuing the conversation. Most importantly, understand that taking moments of clarity can help you become an effective leader who communicates thoughtfully and expresses your opinions clearly.

Taking a pause is a sign of emotional maturity.

Pausing is a sign of emotional maturity.

Pausing is an underappreciated leadership skill, but it can make all the difference in effective communication. Emotionally mature individuals recognize that pausing has its place in conversations—allowing a person time to collect their thoughts or allowing an audience time to digest what is being said. Choosing to pause isn’t a sign of weakness; instead, it’s an act of strength and leadership that shows you are willing to listen and respect others before sharing your opinion. Taking the extra pause time gives you the space for better judgment and more thoughtful action.

When emotions are low, logic and rational thinking are high.

Leadership becomes possible when emotions are low, and we adhere to strict logical and rational thinking. It is derived from seeing the whole picture of any situation without emotions clouding our judgment. This can only be maintained when a level of emotional detachment is established, which leads to the ability to make decisions objectively. Leaders must have their feet firmly planted on the ground, unflinchingly analyzing all angles of a problematic situation before jumping into action. Leadership can become attainable by remaining committed to low levels of emotion and high levels of logic and rational thinking.

Speaking without thinking can be offensive to others and counterproductive to building relationships necessary for effective leadership.

To be an effective leader, one must carefully consider the words one chooses and how others will receive the comments. Thoughtless speech can negatively impact relationships, trust, and morale if it comes across as offensive or demeaning. Leaders must foster strong connections to those they lead to build successful teams and move forward with their initiatives. Therefore, speaking without thought – which could ultimately result in unkind remarks – is disrespectful and highly counterproductive when building meaningful relationships. Successful communication strategies require leaders to pause and assess how their words will affect those around them, ensuring that what they say is clear, kind, and supportive.

Being On Display

Being On Display

“In societies where modern conditions of production prevail, life is presented as an immense accumulation of spectacles. Everything that was directly lived has receded into a representation.”

Guy DeBord

As I researched information for another book to write, I stumbled upon the above quote. After a few days, the quote stuck with me. It made more and more sense the longer it sat in my brain.

In today’s society, life is all about images and appearances. We are bombarded with constant visual stimulation, and it can be hard to escape the pressure to conform to societal standards. In a world where media and technology constantly surround us, we must take a step back and evaluate what is truly important to us. This quote from French sociologist Guy Debord sums up how our lives have become consumed by representations of reality rather than reality itself.

This quote speaks to how we now experience life in a society driven by technology and commerce. We live in an “accumulation of spectacles,” meaning that no matter what we do, it is always presented to us through a media platform or window dressing – mere appearances or illusions. We often mistake this facade for reality itself and forget that actual direct experience has been replaced with representations or images. This speaks to our lost genuine connections with our peers and environment, leading us toward disengagement and isolation instead.

Bombardment

Social media, television, and advertising are everywhere. In today’s society, these sources of communication attempt to shape our beliefs, create value systems and dictate social norms. We are surrounded by images and messages that can dictate how we look or think about ourselves, which can profoundly affect our sense of self-esteem. People should be aware of their ability to resist such messages. We need to recognize our autonomy when deciding what should influence us and develop our own beliefs independently of the avalanche of bombardment we experience daily.

I was teaching a leadership class and proposed to the class to look inward at where our value systems are created. I used the example of the television show, Survivor. It depicts constant deceit, manipulation, and backstabbing as the primary means to win. I asked, “If we watched the entire series without a break, would that change our value system?”

Sadly, it likely would.

We are consumed

We have become slaves, captives to the false realities that social media, pop culture, and other forms of media push onto us. Our lives have become delineated between real experiences and their misrepresentations presented in a shallow, distorted light. We spend all our time admiring this curated version of someone else’s life instead of creating unique stories. Between mindlessly scrolling through our feeds or comparing ourselves to others, we have forgotten how to live our own lives.

We obsess over posting the perfect picture and having the perfect caption. The perfect hashtag. It is the worst of the attention economy.

Step Back

Disconnecting from the messages we are constantly inundated with is critical for creating our realities. We must take a step back, pause and reflect on the information directed at us, and ensure that we can separate what we genuinely believe from what has been thrust upon us from outside sources. Reclaiming our ability to personalize the world around us is paramount, and it all starts with understanding how our influences have shaped our perspective. Until we do this, we are not in control – instead, we become passive pawns of those wishing to shape their narrative.

We are what we consume.

It honestly becomes that simple.

Surround yourself with good people, and become a better person.

To live a more meaningful and fulfilling life, one should make space for moments of reflection. This can be done by taking a walk in nature, engaging in conversations with people around us, or setting intentional times throughout the day when devices are turned off and you are aware of your senses. All these activities will help promote well-being, reduce stress levels and increase our capacity for joy. Investing time in these activities will lead to experiencing life more abundantly and deeply.

Reconnecting with whom we are meant to be.

Human beings must think and act independently to reach their fullest potential. We all need to recognize that taking the reins of our life allows us to have autonomy and strive for personal growth. When we become aware of our choices and are responsible for our decisions, we discover an inner strength that enables us to stay focused and achieve goals. Living life on one’s terms can be a liberating experience as it gives us power, control, and confidence to become whom we want to be.

We must recognize outside messages’ power in our lives and take steps to disconnect from them. When we do this, we can create our reality and live our own lives rather than being controlled by outside forces. We must live our own lives rather than letting others dictate how we should live.

We should stop comparing our social media lives to others. We should stop trying to keep up with the lives that other people portray on social media. Unplug, unwind and be a better person to be a good person. Not for the illusion of being a good person.